There are several factors that contribute to kids fitting in or not. For the most part, I believe that these factors haven't changed much. It mostly revolves around having the same interests and values as the so called "popular kids". In order to fit in, kids have to be involved in activities the "It" kids approve of. Most of the time, these activities include partying, whatever that is defined as, drinking, and at times, doing drugs. However, that is not to say these are the only activities required to fit in, but these are the most common ones. The conflict comes in when some kids are hesitant to take part in the activities considered "cool". Why? Despite the fact they might be obscure, there are some kids who value their health and their academic standing over their social standing. By no means am I saying that the "popular kids" don't value their future and such, however most things related to school is considered nerdy. It is definitely not the way to fit in. Overall, interests and values are huge factors in fitting in.
Moreover, there are some personalities associated with fitting in over others. Normally, I have observed that those with more extroverted personalities tend to be the kids who fit in. They are usually the ones who don't mind having everyone look at them and analyze them. They tend to be the leader of social circles and have strong and loud personalities. On the flip side, those with a quieter personality tend to be on the outside. They are shy and introverted. Since they don't like being the center of attention, they don't hang around the "popular kids".
One thing I would like to stress is that not everyone who is not part of the "popular kids" wants to be part of it. Contrary to popular belief, some kids are happy with having a few close friends. As long as someone has a couple people they could always count on, and that makes them happy, then that is all that matters. The stereotypical definition of fitting in is totally overrated.
Moreover, there are some personalities associated with fitting in over others. Normally, I have observed that those with more extroverted personalities tend to be the kids who fit in. They are usually the ones who don't mind having everyone look at them and analyze them. They tend to be the leader of social circles and have strong and loud personalities. On the flip side, those with a quieter personality tend to be on the outside. They are shy and introverted. Since they don't like being the center of attention, they don't hang around the "popular kids".
One thing I would like to stress is that not everyone who is not part of the "popular kids" wants to be part of it. Contrary to popular belief, some kids are happy with having a few close friends. As long as someone has a couple people they could always count on, and that makes them happy, then that is all that matters. The stereotypical definition of fitting in is totally overrated.
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